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My dp has started to ignore me in the bedroom and i have asked him why but he is just shrugging it off saying he dont know what im talking about he dont even sit near me when we are watching tv at night
i am getting in a state here wondering why is it me is it the kids that are tiring him out does he find me unattractive??

what can i do to get him to open up

Your hubby needs to talk to you about whats wrong otherwise its going to be hard to resolve the problem, you need him to tell you whats wrong what can you both do to make things better, try wearing something really sexy or maybe some toys to spice up your bedroom life. its easy to fall into a rut in the bedroom when kiddies come along hun but without communication you will both find it hard to resolve the issue.

big hugs xxx

I think we all have partners who goes thourgh stages like this perhaps suggest some time away together can you get someone to look after kids a night? even cook him a nice meal when kids in bed failing that if he wont talk suggest going to relate.

My other half goes through stages some weeks he can be like nope dont want it he would even prefer porn, and others he cant get enough. Men r funny creatures and i think the hardest part is getting them to talk about what they r feeling.

Do u think he is meaning to stay away, If u go and sit next to him does he move away?

I would even suggest relationship counselling they help u open up, well they did with me and wayne. I hope i have helped in some way

Just bumping this up so other ladies can give their advice on this x

awww hun, i know how you feel as Ive been through a bit of a stage like that and its hard as it's really upsetting.
i would suggest that you get some time together when the kids are in bed, sit down with a dvd and maybe a bottle of wine and cuddle up and then just tell him how you're feeling.....he might say you're being daft and that everything's fine or he might say that he's got a lot on his mind etc etc........but if he's not going to open up and talk about things then maybe you should start the conversation off and tell him how its making you feel.

good luck hunny x